For Her | How you can help your loved one

We hope to reach mothers and wives--all the women who love the men and teens in their lives. If you are reading this page, we want you to know that you occupy a special place. The words you choose and the actions that you take can bring truth and life into a dark and desperate situation. We want to briefly explain how you can help him (whoever he is in your life).

When he recognizes that he needs help

Awesome! This is a great place to be, but your next few steps will be crucial. Ask yourself the following questions and pray over these recommendations:
  • Have I consistently prayed for him?
  • Am I willing to commit to praying for him as he commits to getting help?
  • Am I working to process the pain he may have brought into my life--including forgiveness?
1. Sit together to find someone he may enjoy working with
    (pastor, youth pastor, or therapist).
2. Be willing to take a back seat or sit up front with him,
    whichever he prefers. Follow his lead and be patient as
    he works to improve himself.
3. Improve yourself and find your own healing as you wait
    for him to come to you.

When he refuses help

Do not be discouraged. Take this opportunity to trust God and rely upon His promises. Pray over these following recommendations:
  • If needed, find a physically safe place to stay. Protect yourself physically.
  • Protect your own time in the word and with fellow believers. You may be spiritually and emotionally vulnerable during this time.
  • Figure out what your limits are (physical violence, regular verbal abuse, infidelity, multiple infidelities, neglect of duties, etc.). Protect yourself from sin and from being encouraged to sin by him with assertive communication and a strong knowledge of scripture.
  • Pursue your own biblical counseling as you wait for your husband. Become the best person that you can become--the best mother and/or wife.
  • Honor your spouse by praying for him.

How to help your teen

Be empowered to act and lead your child. Pray through the following recommendations:
  • Do your research on who you want to speak life into your teen (pastor, mentor, therapist). If possible, include your teen in choosing someone he will connect with.
  • Set up the appointment and let your teen know exactly which behavior you disapprove of/want to see changed.
Ask the therapist you are interviewing some of the questions below:
1. What are your beliefs? How do you incorporate the
    Christian faith into treatment?
2. How exactly will you work with my teen to fix said 
    problem?
3. What is the timeline and will I be engaged in treatment?
4. What is confidentiality?
5. What church do you belong to? Do you have any
    references or reviews?
Lithos Counseling and Consulting, LLC
1805 Green Circle
Valdosta, GA 31602
Office: 229.415.7621
Email: Office@lithoscounselingandconsulting.com
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